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Men’s Liberation

April 30th, 2008 · 22 Comments

Now that gender equality in terms of income has been achieved in the younger generation, and educationally women currently surpass men, most of us ordinary men find ourselves staring irrelevance straight in the face. A friend of mine recently observed that women are “taking over” his department at his former company. Except in specialized occupations that require male minds or bodies, women do indeed appear to have the upper hand. However, I observed to my friend that the top remains largely male, while the middle is dominated by females. The bottom, like the top, is predominately male. Unfortunately for us men, there’s a lot more space at the bottom than at the top.

So what does that mean for men who are not among the fortunate few? Are we destined to be lowly peons shoveling muck out of gutters? For many of us, our fate could be worse than that. Gutter cleaning pays fairly well, at least according to the last bill I saw for that service. The future certainly does look grim, but could there be anything redeeming about our new status as disposable goods? Yes, there could, but only when we learn to accept and finally embrace it.

Bound by a sense of duty and responsibility to family, employer and country, men demanded certain guarantees in return. All these guarantees can be summed up in one word: fidelity. We expected not to be cheated, lied to or abandoned. Sadly, all these things have come to pass. Perhaps our own complacency is as much to blame for this as anything else, but our betrayal is a fait accompli. There was the inevitable denial, rage, and despair, but finally we find ourselves at the point of acceptance.

Accepting such a great loss of security, confidence and trust is a very difficult thing to do, but it is profoundly liberating. Whereas before one was shackled to deceit and resentment, now the fetters are broken, the cell door opens, and suddenly the world is revealed. Feelings of guilt, inadequacy, anger, envy and disappointment dissipate in the open air; ought gives way to is. When one arrives at this state of mind, all of the countless obligations, worries and responsibilities lose their sting. It becomes clear that reality – the way things are – is our only true master. We owe no debt to anything or anyone else.

So once a man throws off his countless restraints and goes all the way up the chain of command to take orders from the top, how does he deal with his only boss? Perhaps surprisingly, dealing with reality is very simple; it is only a matter of “can” and “cannot.” There is no want, should or ought with reality. All those are subjective, and have nothing to do with the sun setting or things falling when dropped. A man who has a good idea of what he can do has a great deal of choices and ability, because there are infinite things men can do. Of course, there are always consequences. For example, you can jump out of an airplane without a parachute, but you cannot survive it. This is where judgment comes into play. However, although dealing with reality requires good judgment, letting other people do so for you requires absolute faith in their judgment AND their interest in your own welfare. That’s a risky bet.

Once a man is freed from the bondage of others’ expectations and desires, all that he does comes from his own heart. Any help or affection is freely given and not in any way coerced. His love and goodwill are pure and free from any taint of flattery. Likewise, any malicious acts are undertaken only by his own initiative. His heart and intentions are made clear through his actions. Because reality is truth, he embodies honesty.

These principles apply to all people, whether male or female, but the loss of direction among men in our civilization is a fairly recent development, and needs to be addressed. At this point, a politicized “men’s movement” might be counterproductive, because it would lead us down into the sewers of contemporary discourse. But a spiritual awakening, accompanied by a recognition that we have our own priorities, is sorely needed. Women rebelled against their social obligations and limitations and threw them off. Men, too, can do the same.

When men see that bondage is a state of mind – often an unconscious choice – they realize how easy it is to cast it aside. Our own bondage came from the guarantees that we demanded, which slowly created obligations that we came to see as inevitable. But now that the guarantees have been removed, we find that we are still in chains, and herein lies the great liberating opportunity afforded by injustice. Without the shock of betrayal and loss, we might have plodded along forever, devolving into something akin to oxen, fit only for heavy burdens and the whip. But that will not happen now. The deal we’ve got is clearly rotten, and there’s no good reason to haul that load.

The uplifting feeling one gets when laying down a heavy burden does much for the spirit. The bitterness over loss and betrayal is forgotten as the realization sets in that one’s life is in one’s own hands. What others want, think or expect becomes no more important than anything else, because all that matters is what IS and how one chooses to deal with it. When men know that, they know true freedom.

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22 responses so far ↓

  • 1 roissy // May 22, 2008 at 9:12 am

    this was excellent. the seed of a manifesto.

  • 2 James M // May 22, 2008 at 2:59 pm

    It reminds me of the VS Naipaul quote:

    “The world is what it is; men who are nothing, who allow themselves to become nothing, have no place in it.”

  • 3 SFG // May 22, 2008 at 3:28 pm

    OK. I still think we should organize to form pro-male pressure groups to fight back against women. I mean, every time an issue hurts women NOW stands up and screams, but issues like outsourcing affecting men, nobody talks about.

  • 4 slumlord // May 22, 2008 at 4:18 pm

    Who darketh counsel, with words of no meaning?

    Though you mean well, it is poison that flows from your heart. This post is a tribute to pride, the deadliest of all sins, it is the duty of good men to refute it.

    The great mass of men are the proles that they are because of precisely this philosophy. Men by and large are cowards, stupid, arrogant and ignorant. Left to their own devices, they have no problem in destroying themselves. The rules and regulations that were put in place by traditional society were there to enoble them and protect them from themselves. Very few men are natural aristocrats.

    The great myth in modern culture , is that devoid of any constraints or guidance a man is able to achieve his own happiness. His innate good sense and beauty will then triumph. As the theory goes ,with the courage to follow his own convictions a man will surely find happiness. Leave your wife if she bores you, steal from your boss if you feel he owes it to you, disown your parents if they are inconvient, lie to your friends if it gives you advantage; do this and you will be happy. You owe no one anything. This is crap and the great Lie.

    Stalin and Pol Pot were their own men, so was Hitler. These men answered to no one and were on top of the food chain. They were masters of their respective universes and captains of their souls. If these men, who through their actions, created oceans of tears and rivers of blood are to be taken as examples of manly happiness, then a curse on your philosophy and all who hold it.

    Better a servant in the house of the Lord than supreme master of my own pigsty.

  • 5 Bill // May 27, 2008 at 1:41 pm

    Actually, slumlord, I am advocating serving the Lord, or whatever you choose to call the highest authority.

    It was the obedient followers of totalitarian leaders who, through their blind faith in the rule of man, ultimately enabled the destruction these men unleashed. If they had followed the highest authority, obeying the laws of nature and truth, the tragedies you deplore never would have occurred.

  • 6 Niall // May 31, 2008 at 9:08 am

    Reverse Lysistrata! Reverse Lysistrata!

    Yes, I know. The stupidest idea ever conceived. A man can dream, though.

    Excellent post and blog, btw.

    (For every woman in federal prison in Canada – 200 total – there are FIFTY men imprisoned. Some equality!)

  • 7 Z // Jun 22, 2008 at 4:29 pm

    Great post; I especially liked:

    * “…the loss of direction among men in our civilization is a fairly recent development, and needs to be addressed.”


    * “Women rebelled against their social obligations and limitations and threw them off. Men, too, can do the same.”

    Excellent blog you have here. Keep writing!

  • 8 fidelbogen // Jan 7, 2009 at 9:56 pm

    An inspiring essay. It preaches almost exactly what I preach, but in a style very different from my own. Therefore, it digs into corners which, thus far, have escaped my reach. . .

    I will be quoting this article in a post on my own blog, and linking to it.

  • 9 scs // Jan 10, 2009 at 11:41 pm

    “Reverse Lysistrata” is working already. Not a sex strike, but a marriage strike.

    The problem is not just the women (who have diseases, bad attitudes, and shameful pasts). The problem is the bad governments making no-fault divorce laws and the bad lawyers profiteering off the whole mess.

    The marriage strike is a personal problem for women, but it’s a demographic problem for governments.

  • 10 Tom // Jan 12, 2009 at 2:21 pm

    I think we should establish a manifesto of inalienable rights of men:
    - a man is not responsible for a child he did not consent to
    - a man’s property is his own, regardless of marriage, sexual relations, and living arrangements
    - a man cannot be cut from the life of his children without due process (you would think this one would be guaranteed by our constitution – tough luck!)

    Any other ideas?
    I really do think that reproduction right is the fundamental right that will lead to all others. Our biggest fight will be to establish that no man should be held liable for a child he did not want.

    On a side note, this is my own survival plan in the matriarchy ;-)
    - only casual sex with girlfriends, no committed relationship
    - have a child at age 35 or so, using a surrogate mother; hire a live-in maid to help and serve as a female role-model

  • 11 daz // Feb 5, 2009 at 5:50 pm

    Tom, a manifesto is what feminists need (and communists). For men, what we are able to do is what we have the right to do. In the situations listed, any man who doesn’t establish the rights you want with the woman before hand deserves to not have them. If you’re dumb enough to get married, you deserve to lose your stuff…dumb enough to have kids and you deserve to pay child support. BTW, don’t want a child? DON’T HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX IDIOT! The last thing men need is overprotective laws like women have. Man up and take some responsibility for yourself instead of begging a government to do it for you. BTW you look like a prime candidate to be stung by a woman, you’re gonna get burned. That surrogate mother will be able (by law) to take your child and then sue you for support. Not to mention that your live-in maid will be able to accuse you of assaulting her and probably get your house. Your plan is just plain dumb. Any plan that involves women and assumes that they will act in a moral manner is a plan doomed to fail.

  • 12 Anonymous // Feb 19, 2009 at 7:50 pm

    For men, the only safe sex is celibacy.

  • 13 Rebel // May 23, 2009 at 8:58 am

    Men must simply abandon a society that oppresses them. Period.

    Live your life for and about yourself.
    You will most certainly find that selfishness is a great virtue indeed.

    Use society to your benefit.
    Society OWES you: not the other way around. Take full advantage of everything you can land your hands on. Have fun, live fully and… screw this sick society.

    Most of all, consider this: NOTHING IS IMPORTANT.

    Life is too short to sacrifice it on the altar of female comfort.

  • 14 joey // Jun 3, 2009 at 9:09 pm

    First of all i cant believe what i am reading.First of all you dont give female a fianancial advantage over you when they all ready have a bioligical advantage over us.American women are the greatest con i have ever seen since well the greatest con.Why we have let them dictate to us what there gonna fuckin do is beyond me.If it werent for men they’ed be running from lions and tigers and aliens.Remember this guys american women are not our friends they hate our guts and sooner or later men staying home and minding the kids while angry bitch goes out bringing home the bacon will fail.Why cause its not natural its against nature.Do me a favor? Tomorrow look around notice how nasty theyare to u pretty ones most of all.Because its there beauty that weakens us most of all.If this continues and it will your sons or nuckle draggers as some of theses twats call us will be running this country while your sons will stay home mind the kids and do the laundry.Are u fucking kidding me?Not while im alive Joey

  • 15 Kevin // Jun 6, 2009 at 2:26 pm

    one thing that ive noticed predominantly is the fact that, regarless of gender most things are now considered “hers” a good example would be the local clothing store. while women claim most of the store leaving few options for us to choose from, forcing us to choose something we dont paticularly feel suits us or perhaps so, almost as though we are being told what to wear and how, and at the same time being demanded to supply and allow ourselves to be taken advantage of, without being allowed to make up our own minds, making us submissive very quietly. as for being treated like dirt by women that we find attractive, most of the time, we are shot down or never given a chance in the first place without prooving that we can provide for all of their needs without meeting our own. why do we let ourselves be treated this way, I know for one that I would love to see more privacy in bathrooms and more medical programs for male health. we should have more than just a proctologist and uninary doctor. perhaps more programs for equal treatment of homeless men, since women are granted oppertunities first without caring that theyre male counterparts are left to remain outside.

  • 16 Darth Sidious // Jun 14, 2009 at 11:37 pm

    You want to liberate men, then don’t bring any more children into this piece of shit world. The only way to liberate something that can never be liberated is for it to never be born in the first place.

    I’m all for feminism, I only wish it would hurry up already and finish off what’s left of this pathetic society. The sooner this entire shithouse goes up in flames, the sooner I can start a roaming band of warlords.

    Our mission: destroy and suppress all technological invention in the new world order. We need to go back and stay in the stone age. The only rule of law will be force. Secondly, we’d have to invent a religion that forbade all forms of independent thinking other than death and destruction, in order to prevent this mess called “society” from ever occuring again. All the rich fuckers who enslave us, we shall eat them and their babies. Anyone who spends time inventing shit, we’ll feed to the lions and watch them die slowly and painfully. The only men that will rise to the top won’t be rich, they’ll be the mericiless, ruthless, remorseless brutal killing machines. The only babies that will be born in the new dawn, we’ll be born to our women slaves, that way we can keep the population under control. Only the strong and ruthless will breed, all else will parish and die. Society and it’s weakness will be purged, it’s only a matter of time….. just look at the Taliban if you don’t believe me. But we should do better than the Taliban. Think Ghengis Khan.

  • 17 Rebel // Jun 19, 2009 at 9:06 am

    “I’m all for feminism, I only wish it would hurry up already and finish off what’s left of this pathetic society. The sooner this entire shithouse goes up in flames, the sooner I can start a roaming band of warlords. ”

    I am in total agreement with your statement.
    I would even take it one step further: let’s do our best to help feminism destroy the remains of this fucked up society. We just can’t leave it..idiotly hanging in the air…
    The beast must be put to death.
    And you know what? many men I know think the way I do. Maybe all we need to do is to spread the word. Maybe we are not far away from success…
    Then we can start rebuilding… it has been done countless times before and should be very exciting.
    Civilizations are born and die. It’s the nature of the beast. Changes must be done at intervals to prevent society from stagnation. Western civilization has performed its duty and now is time to turn the page, do a general cleaning and start from scratch.
    I just can’t wait…

  • 18 Espio // Jul 9, 2009 at 7:01 pm

    Bill said:
    It was the obedient followers of totalitarian leaders who, through their blind faith in the rule of man, ultimately enabled the destruction these men unleashed. If they had followed the highest authority, obeying the laws of nature and truth, the tragedies you deplore never would have occurred.

    Bill- obeying the laws of nature is the same thing as obeying women. If a man puts nature to be the supreme source of value, he is saying that the female is the selector, the one to be protected, the boss. Esther Vilar said this in “The Manipulated Man.” The only authority a man can have and not be controlled by women is himself or his god (assuming its a god from a masculine religion of course).

    Look at the environmentalist men whose only faith is in biology and Darwin. Look at how they place women above them, that is because nature is their god.

  • 19 Crap // Jul 25, 2009 at 2:36 am

    “Look at the environmentalist men whose only faith is in biology and Darwin. Look at how they place women above them, that is because nature is their god.”

    Dude you talk crap

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    Losing all hope is freedom.

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