She has reacted just as you’d expect an entitled pretty westernized women to react.

Well, if we can have the “French arrangement” for women, the dammit we should have it for men to right??????

I mean if a guy pulled the same thing (can you imagine if Sanford held a press conference and complained about whoever ratted him out and blamed that party for the whole mess?! How delicious would that have been!), he’d never get away with it and would be called out on it.

I hope she loses her job for this. If society wanted to send “the right message”, that is what would end up happening to her. Yes, Im well aware of the fact that Im considered heartless.

What I’ve seen (and I’m sure you have as well, Welmer) is that people who are caught in affairs often bend over backwards to justify their behavior. Both men and women do this, but I do think that it’s more common for women to do it because male affairs tend to generate far less “sympathy and understanding” than female affairs do. It’s very common for women who are caught in adultery to not express remorse for what they have done, to blame their husband (or the target’s wife) for having “caused” the situation, and therefore ultimately the fallout from it, and to generally reach for all kinds of justifications, contextulizations and so on as to avoid blame themselves. We just saw Sandra Tsing Loh do this very publicly in The Atlantic. Chapur is behaving in a consistent way — deflect blame, change the focus from her to the source of the information and so on. It’s kind of the standard operating procedure for adulterers.