I haven’t been posting too much lately, but I have a pretty good excuse. I’ve got my kids for a couple weeks (ending on Friday), and at ages 3 and 4.5 they are a real handful. It never ceases to amaze me how they can just keep on going, and going and… Well, you get the point.
I think it’s important to recognize that raising small children is indeed a full-time job, and then some. Women who put all their effort into this noble vocation should be praised and highly valued. Furthermore, they should be strongly encouraged to do so in the bounds of marriage, because, to be quite frank, it’s far too much to ask from the majority of women to go it alone.
It’s always a joy to see kids happy, healthy, and energetic, but sometimes it sure feels like they’ll be sending you to an early grave with their relentless exuberance. Whatever the case, I’m very happy to have my kids under my roof for an extended period of time without having to go for days without seeing them, and they seem pretty happy to be with daddy.
However, when they go to mom’s place for a couple of weeks I’ll have a lot more time to sit, think, and produce some new content. But of course I’ll be sad when I don’t hear their little feet pattering into the kitchen for dinner, and I’ll miss reading them stories before bedtime. It’s a complicated thing, being a father.
15 responses so far ↓
1 Justin // Aug 3, 2009 at 9:03 am
I would actually say that the majority of women are incapable of being single AND a good mother. The primary directive, for most of them, is to acquire a mate, and it shows up in a lack of attention to their own children.
Partying, dating, hanging out with friends, all irressistable social draws for the young mother, and where are their children during all of this? At grandma’s, if they are lucky, and no doubt noting all the men coming in and out of mommy’s life.
In my observation, the single mother who devotes herself primarily to her children, rather than to her own social life, is rare, extremely rare.
Children aren’t stupid, they know where they stand in mommy’s totem pole of values. Always being shushed when mommy is on the phone, vast amounts of time parked in front of the TV, left at home countless nights while mommy goes out, this is the typical experience of the children of single mothers.
2 Lukobe // Aug 3, 2009 at 11:18 am
This is probably less the case the older the single mother is, no? Or, at least, the older she was when she had the kids?
It’s a shame — 22 or so seems a great time, biologically, to have kids, but a terrible time, emotionally. At least these days. Somehow the 16-year-olds of yesteryear managed it just fine.
3 Bhetti // Aug 4, 2009 at 9:11 pm
God, I hate this kind of thing.
Wish my dad read me stories.
Still, I’d spend a lot of time with him.
I miss him.
Breaks my heart to think of him on his own in far distant country, not seeing us for yearly intervals.
Ah, crap, I cried. This is your fault, ha!
4 Savvy // Aug 6, 2009 at 3:33 am
Sweet.
I can see you tucking them in.
5 INFO // Aug 7, 2009 at 3:15 am
Here’s a good article for ya, Welmer – http://www.theoccidentalobserver.net/authors/Kurtagic-Men.html
6 Lukobe // Aug 8, 2009 at 4:26 pm
Meh. You don’t like race-mixing, eh?
7 ganttsquarry // Aug 8, 2009 at 4:45 pm
Novaseeker and now Welmer. What about me and my blog surfing habits?
Kidding aside, you are doing important work. We all know how important fathers are. Your resolve and integrity in the face of adversity is admirable. I’ll be looking forward to your new content when you get back.
8 Justin // Aug 10, 2009 at 8:28 am
I think you are missing the point of that article, Lukobe. It’s not that race mixing is inherently bad. The article was about the collapse of Western manliness, one result of which was the loss of desire to protect territory and family from alien incursion. Race mixing is just a secondary effect, and is only portrayed as negative because it dilutes the host population’s authority and genetic prosperity.
9 Lukobe // Aug 10, 2009 at 10:07 am
I’m not sure what is meant here by “authority.” As for “genetic prosperity,” I’d submit that both my parents’ races are better off, not worse, for my existence.
And, of course, as far as “alien incursion” goes, no mention of cases in which Europeans were behind the incursion…
10 Justin // Aug 11, 2009 at 8:49 am
As for authority, our current POTUS is a great example. By sharing political authority with hoards of immigrants, the original population lost political authority to guide its own destiny.
The alien incursion issue is universal. Any native population can be marginalized if its land is swamped by foreigners. Whatever your race is, the swamping of America now will be bad for your genetic prosperity, because of the overcrowding and resource competition that your offspring will face.
11 Lukobe // Aug 11, 2009 at 9:57 am
The original population was Native American (unless they displaced an even older population of which we have no records). They have indeed lost political authority to guide their own destiny.
As for hordes of immigrants, I’m sorry that the United States isn’t a 18th-century Jeffersonian pastoral democracy. Or are you excepting the, say, Germans and Irish that arrived in the 19th century? What about the Jews and Italians? Are they OK? The Asians? Or is this more about the Mexicans?
Believe me, I am not in favor of mass, illegal, immigration, but I’d be interested to know when your family got here, and why you think they have any more of a right to be here than my family does. Where do you make the cutoff?
12 Lukobe // Aug 11, 2009 at 9:57 am
Oh, and as for Obama, he’s half white, remember. Does that make it better for you?
13 Welmer // Aug 11, 2009 at 12:30 pm
Lukobe, don’t get too worried about a natural – and healthy – sentiment. For example, although it took me years, and some distance from the country, I finally accepted China’s nativism.
America is currently home to three large nationalities: “white” American, “black” American, and Mexican. You are part of the first by culture. If it weren’t for the extremely symbolic nature of African blood in this country, Obama would be as well (and he probably wouldn’t be president).
White American – as we know from the countless examples of Americans with Indian blood – does not mean “pure Aryan out to conquer the world and exterminate others.” Rather, it’s a kind of recognizable type with a great number of variations in the states (e.g. Jersey Italian/Jewish, Boston Irish, Vermont English, Tennessee Scots Irish, Iowa German, etc.), just like Chinese are generally recognizable as Chinese, but vary quite widely across their large territory.
As for the Indians, what really did them in was disease, which decimated them throughout North America (higher mortality lasted well into the 20th century), leaving the land pretty much free for the taking.
So before you get too upset about what Justin is getting at, think about the fact that most of the immigrants coming into America now are not assimilated like you and do not appear to want to be, are mainly part of a large, rival nation that shares a border with us, and are likely to consolidate and dominate a large part of our country in the southwest. Does this make them bad people? No, but it isn’t necessarily good for us, and it’s perfectly reasonable to resist it based on nativist sentiments.
Go to SoCal sometime and you’ll see it pretty clearly. Hell, even Yakima should give you a pretty good idea of what’s happening.
14 Lukobe // Aug 11, 2009 at 12:52 pm
Lukobe, don’t get too worried about a natural – and healthy – sentiment. For example, although it took me years, and some distance from the country, I finally accepted China’s nativism.
It’s slightly different, though, isn’t it? China is not a nation of immigrants. It is multi-ethnic, and I am sure most of the ethnic groups did not originate in the lands where they now live, but it’s not like the U.S. in the sense that whites have only been in Seattle, say, for 150 years.
America is currently home to three large nationalities: “white” American, “black” American, and Mexican. You are part of the first by culture.
True. But “white American culture” of course isn’t monolithic. I’m part of a subset.
If it weren’t for the extremely symbolic nature of African blood in this country, Obama would be as well (and he probably wouldn’t be president).
Fair enough.
White American – as we know from the countless examples of Americans with Indian blood – does not mean “pure Aryan out to conquer the world and exterminate others.” Rather, it’s a kind of recognizable type with a great number of variations in the states (e.g. Jersey Italian/Jewish, Boston Irish, Vermont English, Tennessee Scots Irish, Iowa German, etc.), just like Chinese are generally recognizable as Chinese, but vary quite widely across their large territory.
Also fair enough. But I am worried that not enough people see it as reasonably and rationally as you do, and will take “American nativism” and “dilution of white culture” to extremes.
As for the Indians, what really did them in was disease, which decimated them throughout North America (higher mortality lasted well into the 20th century), leaving the land pretty much free for the taking.
Sure. And I’m not one of those who would suggest we all leave America to its original inhabitants. I’m just worried about people painting with too broad a brush.
So before you get too upset about what Justin is getting at, think about the fact that most of the immigrants coming into America now are not assimilated like you and do not appear to want to be, are mainly part of a large, rival nation that shares a border with us, and are likely to consolidate and dominate a large part of our country in the southwest. Does this make them bad people? No, but it isn’t necessarily good for us, and it’s perfectly reasonable to resist it based on nativist sentiments.
Again, fair enough, but:
1) They could simply argue they are repossessing land that was once theirs (I know it’s not simple, and I don’t buy that argument, but the Southwest did use to be part of Mexico, at least nominally)
2) I am again worried that people will use the anti-illegal-immigration-from-the-south argument against all immigrants. Asian immigrants, for example, tend to be all too happy to integrate.
15 Savvy // Aug 12, 2009 at 12:58 pm
I will gladly offer the cultural mess tour of So Cal. It’s pretty crazy down here.
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