People have apparently forgotten that you don’t have to be a mother to be a parent. Here in the states one frequently runs across the “herb,” or homo feministus, soft-stepping in the shadow of his swaggering she-man of a wife, often pushing a stroller or wearing a frontal papoose, which was designed for ease of breastfeeding. “Why would a man ever wear something designed for breastfeeding?” you might ask. Fortunately for us confused men, a Swedish professor has provided the answer:
“Healthy children know instinctively that the breast has a dual function. One gives them milk, the other gives them warmth and a cosy bond… [men] should take the opportunity to get closer to their child by offering them their breasts in the same way as women.”
So there you have it: men would be better parents if only they became mothers. Anyone who has survived a custody dispute knows that this is exactly the view of most social workers and judges right here at home. The mother is primary parent; the father secondary at best, and he is often suspected to be a malign, dangerous presence in a child’s life. Perhaps the evolution of fathers into mothers with penises is inevitable given the social pressure and hatred of all things masculine that has swept over the West like a feminist jihad.
In a healthier society, the role of father would be seen as just as important as that of mother, but different in quality. Mothers nurse and swaddle the children, and fathers guide them as they take their first steps out into the world. The mother shelters and comforts the child, and the father encourages his sons and daughters to venture forth and grow, under his watchful eye, of course. One represents security, and the other freedom. Children need both, and to remove the masculine influence of a father from their lives is to impoverish children and stunt their emotional and spiritual growth.
As surrogate mothers, men are doubtless inferior creatures, but the worst damage they can do to children in that role is to deprive them of the confidence and purpose that masculine influence brings into their lives.
18 responses so far ↓
1 Tarl // Sep 4, 2009 at 11:34 am
My son did try to chew on my chest a couple of times when I was holding him, but I wasn’t giving it to him on purpose. I just wound up with a big wet spot on the shirt. =)
2 Cannon's Canon // Sep 4, 2009 at 11:49 am
where do you find this shit, welmer???
3 Doug1 // Sep 4, 2009 at 12:07 pm
As I’ve said before, infant care is woman’s work. I doubt it does help much to have a father and two parent family around as this stage. Very young children are mostly but not entirely women’s work. Father start making a difference but the amount of father time as long as regular probably isn’t that crucial. As kids get to be 4 and older dads make more and more of a difference and should try hard to spend more time with their kids, especially so called “quality time”: not just minding them so they avoid getting into trouble but playing with them, talking with them, and so on. As kids go to school the guidance of dads again increases in importance.
When children of either sex are adolescents, I think the role of the father provided he’s had a significant if nowhere near primary in terms of time role before that, become notably more important than that of the mother, usually.
My take anyway. From observing nieces, and friends kids, and so on.
4 Alkibiades // Sep 4, 2009 at 12:20 pm
Damn. Where do you find this stuff?
5 Grim // Sep 4, 2009 at 1:33 pm
Ever seen a rebel without a cause? Classic 50s movie with James Dean. All the screwed up kids in that movie? Either no father or a father who acted like a women. We knew the lack of real male role models screwed up kids back then. That knowledge was erased by the feminist era.
6 sestamibi // Sep 4, 2009 at 1:50 pm
This is the sort of thing that makes me reconsider my feelings about jihad in Scandinavia.
7 Elusive Wapiti // Sep 4, 2009 at 2:25 pm
Wha!? Have these clowns never heard of nipple confusion?
8 Daniel L. Taylor // Sep 4, 2009 at 2:35 pm
This seems appropriate: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OkcucXIuVI
9 Amy // Sep 4, 2009 at 2:47 pm
I couldn’t resist stopping by to read this post after seeing the title on EW’s sidebar. As I read this, a rather creepy article my husband & I came across while expecting our daughter three years ago popped into my head: http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/miscarticles/milkmen.html
Apparently men shouldn’t only offer their breast but make milk as well. I shook my head then and I shake my head now. Why not value men as, you know, fathers and not whatever you want to call what these articles are promoting?
10 Lukobe // Sep 4, 2009 at 3:13 pm
“Men often have trouble finding things. And if the mother is out, the child is screaming and they can’t find the pacifier I’m sure there are a lot of men who give their baby their breasts.”
So said the Swedish professor.
Bizarre.
11 BeltainAmerica // Sep 4, 2009 at 4:15 pm
Its just wrong.
What is that saying
If you can only find one website that promotes something it is just wrong.
I hope there is only one article on this.
12 Talleyrand // Sep 4, 2009 at 7:29 pm
Anyone want to take a bet that it will be illegal to pee standing up in Sweden in less than two years?
Anyone?
13 cayalx // Sep 4, 2009 at 10:46 pm
isn’t it true that a woman’s nipples are far less sensitive than that of a man’s, in order to accommodate nursing? Is the author of this “idea” even aware of this fact? Or does he assume that female nipples are just as sensitive as male nipples, and thus men should share in her pain and irritation? Sorta like an “empathy belly”. Just reading between the lines here…
14 Indomitable Thoughts // Sep 4, 2009 at 10:53 pm
Now I know what roissy was saying when he wrote that rant about dudes wearing frontal paposses. Never in my life will I allow myself to be emasculated that way. Never.
15 Tarl // Sep 5, 2009 at 6:39 am
Doug – sorry, totally wrong. I can tell you from personal experience that the father makes a difference RIGHT AWAY, and it is crucial for the father to spend quality time with them (i.e. interact with them and develop a relationship with them) LONG before the age of 4. A child can recognize its father pretty much from birth, and most definitely wants to interact with you even if he or she can’t tell you so in so many words. My son indicated that he “wanted daddy” long before he could walk (9 months) and talk (~1), e.g. he would indicate that he wanted to be picked up, and would yell with dismay if I gave him to mom or tried to leave the room.
16 Tarl // Sep 5, 2009 at 8:18 am
Oh yeah, and the other point is, not only does the baby want and need the father’s attention from day one, but if you are a normal man – and not a total narcissist or psychopath – then you actually WANT to give your child attention from day one (rather than holding off until age 4 for some absurd reason). Believe it or not, it is enjoyable to wash, dress, change, and feed your baby! Why would you even want to have a kid if you plan to treat the kid with total indifference prior to the age of 4? (Just FYI, that’s pretty much what my dad did to me, and I hate the SOB. I haven’t talked to him for over 20 years, and I never will. So, if you want your kids to despise you, go ahead and leave all that “women’s work” to your wife.)
17 Patriarch // Sep 5, 2009 at 10:24 pm
I agree with Sestamibi. Some Islam would be good for Scandinavia. Perhaps it will help them regain their manhood. Instead of being a threat to Europe, perhaps Islamic immigration will actually be that continent’s salvation.
A couple weeks ago Roissy asked this question, and I replied:
Roissy said:
“btw, sweden is slowly islamicizing because swedish chicks prefer banging it out with
the manlier (read: more dominant) immigrants. is this a good thing for Swedish civilization in the long run? if so, explain your reasoning.”
I replied:
The answer is Yes, because it will inject a dose of much-needed maculinity into the Swedish gene pool. The basic problem in Sweden is that Swedish men are herbs. Their other problems flow from that primary cause.
The solution is for Swedish women to breed with the most masculine men available, which in this case are immigrants. As a result of this interbreeding, the mixed-race future generations of Swedes will be more manly and less herbly than they would be if they were pure Swedish, and that will be good.
The losers, of course, are the herbs whose genes will not be passed on, but that is how evolution works. Those who are less fit are weeded out. Think of the modern passive beta male as an evolutionary dead end, an experiment that failed. The future will march on without them.
18 Savvy // Sep 6, 2009 at 2:52 am
TOOO HAIRY!! Pteh! Pteh!!
There is seriously no point, but it’s interesting.
Childbearing may be “women’s work” but there should be something inherently manly about bravely facing a stinky diaper to help the wife out, no? Or finding positive ways to bond with you child, no? Perhaps animatedly reading the sports section to your child sounds like it could be fun?
Part of the battle between the sexes is that women do not realize that men are not hairy misbehaving females. But then the converse is true for men, we are not men who wear makeup and shave our legs.
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