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	<title>Comments on: What to Ask Your Prospective Bride</title>
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		<title>By: Alina</title>
		<link>http://www.welmer.org/2009/09/19/what-to-ask-your-prospective-bride/comment-page-1/#comment-5459</link>
		<dc:creator>Alina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Aug 2010 10:07:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think most of that list is common sense, and i know quite well i would say no to most of it.

I follow the bible almost perfectly despite the fact i do not really believe in god, i am agnostic.

I do not drink, I certainly do not sleep around, and in fact I have not slept with anyone. (In that way)

I believe my moral standards are higher than the average person.

I know at least 4 other people that share my moral standards.

My point is, whether you believe anything i have said or not is ones quality is by no means dependant on one’s religious beliefs.

I personally find the notion, quite offensive.

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For a TRADITIONAL marriage i believe Welmer is exactly right.

However i would also like to point out two things, one, and marriage is a religious concept, if you are not religious and doing it for reasons according to that of religious reasons there is no point to begin with.

Marriage does not mean to have children, either.

As far as i know, I agree with you. Game would have no effect on me, as i would refuse to sleep with a male that i did not have a deep relationship with and was in a relationship long enough to asses wtf i am doing with him and if i should be doing so.

I believe people like myself are a minority, for both men and woman, and in reality, i know of no decent way to meet one another. As i doubt i would even be in most places &quot;game&quot; males are.

I would not be at a church, certainly not a bar. Society today really does not pair people up in that way through family either.

I have read many dating things and social relations, psychology interests me greatly and i am quite educated in the field. As far as i know, there is truly nothing to pair people up as we are all different, all have different priorities and values.

Of course i am always open to new ideas and views on the matter.

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As far as weeding that &quot;type&quot; of person out of the gene pool, a person’s attitude and views on life has little to nothing to do with genetics.

People will have that attitude, like myself, not to have children regardless of genetics.

&quot;No one wants to hear my advice, because working on your own character is a lot harder than working on your inner/outer Game.&quot;

I completely agree with that myself and i live by it.

Judge not lest ye be judged yourself.

One cannot change their external factors, only how they themselves influence them.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think most of that list is common sense, and i know quite well i would say no to most of it.</p>
<p>I follow the bible almost perfectly despite the fact i do not really believe in god, i am agnostic.</p>
<p>I do not drink, I certainly do not sleep around, and in fact I have not slept with anyone. (In that way)</p>
<p>I believe my moral standards are higher than the average person.</p>
<p>I know at least 4 other people that share my moral standards.</p>
<p>My point is, whether you believe anything i have said or not is ones quality is by no means dependant on one’s religious beliefs.</p>
<p>I personally find the notion, quite offensive.</p>
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<p>For a TRADITIONAL marriage i believe Welmer is exactly right.</p>
<p>However i would also like to point out two things, one, and marriage is a religious concept, if you are not religious and doing it for reasons according to that of religious reasons there is no point to begin with.</p>
<p>Marriage does not mean to have children, either.</p>
<p>As far as i know, I agree with you. Game would have no effect on me, as i would refuse to sleep with a male that i did not have a deep relationship with and was in a relationship long enough to asses wtf i am doing with him and if i should be doing so.</p>
<p>I believe people like myself are a minority, for both men and woman, and in reality, i know of no decent way to meet one another. As i doubt i would even be in most places &#8220;game&#8221; males are.</p>
<p>I would not be at a church, certainly not a bar. Society today really does not pair people up in that way through family either.</p>
<p>I have read many dating things and social relations, psychology interests me greatly and i am quite educated in the field. As far as i know, there is truly nothing to pair people up as we are all different, all have different priorities and values.</p>
<p>Of course i am always open to new ideas and views on the matter.</p>
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<p>As far as weeding that &#8220;type&#8221; of person out of the gene pool, a person’s attitude and views on life has little to nothing to do with genetics.</p>
<p>People will have that attitude, like myself, not to have children regardless of genetics.</p>
<p>&#8220;No one wants to hear my advice, because working on your own character is a lot harder than working on your inner/outer Game.&#8221;</p>
<p>I completely agree with that myself and i live by it.</p>
<p>Judge not lest ye be judged yourself.</p>
<p>One cannot change their external factors, only how they themselves influence them.</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
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		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Apr 2010 21:04:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You know, you might want to ask the men the same questions...I mean seriously, some can&#039;t.

Many men look to sex as a way of us ladies showing our interest...seriously, a guy at the gym just told me this.  How can those of us who don&#039;t find a decent guy when there are so many who are ruining it for the decent of both sexes?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You know, you might want to ask the men the same questions&#8230;I mean seriously, some can&#8217;t.</p>
<p>Many men look to sex as a way of us ladies showing our interest&#8230;seriously, a guy at the gym just told me this.  How can those of us who don&#8217;t find a decent guy when there are so many who are ruining it for the decent of both sexes?</p>
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		<title>By: Leonidas</title>
		<link>http://www.welmer.org/2009/09/19/what-to-ask-your-prospective-bride/comment-page-1/#comment-5417</link>
		<dc:creator>Leonidas</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Apr 2010 00:35:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>‘Women are better at social networking for a reason: they need to be to get help raising kids.’
This is a feminist fallacy my friend! Pure BS they wnat you beleave in it. Truth is: Women are better at local one-to-one social networking but men are better at many-to-many social networking in the wider world.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>‘Women are better at social networking for a reason: they need to be to get help raising kids.’<br />
This is a feminist fallacy my friend! Pure BS they wnat you beleave in it. Truth is: Women are better at local one-to-one social networking but men are better at many-to-many social networking in the wider world.</p>
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		<title>By: HUSBAND</title>
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		<dc:creator>HUSBAND</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Jan 2010 22:50:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>1. Wife has obligation to keep her figure; get back in shape after childbirth

2. no need to worry about man&#039;s sex drive; woman needs to &quot;pretend&quot; even if her drive is not quite there</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>1. Wife has obligation to keep her figure; get back in shape after childbirth</p>
<p>2. no need to worry about man&#8217;s sex drive; woman needs to &#8220;pretend&#8221; even if her drive is not quite there</p>
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		<title>By: WIFE</title>
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		<dc:creator>WIFE</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 02 Jan 2010 05:43:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Two of your questions are more suitably designed for HUSBANDS than wives;

1. Can you handle the obliteration of my former physique for at least eighteen months for each child I bear? 

2. If your sex life were to evaporate, would you still be able to retain a fair perspective concerning your spouse?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Two of your questions are more suitably designed for HUSBANDS than wives;</p>
<p>1. Can you handle the obliteration of my former physique for at least eighteen months for each child I bear? </p>
<p>2. If your sex life were to evaporate, would you still be able to retain a fair perspective concerning your spouse?</p>
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		<title>By: ScareCrow</title>
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		<dc:creator>ScareCrow</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:00:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;d say that any woman these days is a bad bet.

Why bother asking them questions at all?

All they have to do is guess what you want to hear before answering - based on the questions - any woman with a functioning brain can do that...

Marriage is simply not worth it.

It has no benefits for a man.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;d say that any woman these days is a bad bet.</p>
<p>Why bother asking them questions at all?</p>
<p>All they have to do is guess what you want to hear before answering &#8211; based on the questions &#8211; any woman with a functioning brain can do that&#8230;</p>
<p>Marriage is simply not worth it.</p>
<p>It has no benefits for a man.</p>
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		<title>By: Deborah</title>
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		<dc:creator>Deborah</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Oct 2009 13:10:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>These prospective questions are all excellent reasons as to why it is insanity for two parents, of very young children, to hold full time - 40+ hour a week - jobs. 

If both of the parents have such a low income that they need to work full time jobs in order to survive, they should at least get a grandmother, grandfather, or other willing family member who can manage the children. This is an arrangement I frequently see in low income, but family oriented, Hispanic and Middle Eastern immigrants. 

While feminists complain that the rules of the old days prevented women from supporting their families - in dire situations - there is much evidence to prove the contrary. 

The reality is that in the 50&#039;s, 30 % of all American women had jobs - this 30% being the widowed or low income women who needed further means to support their families. I also know this, because both of my grandmothers were in that category. So much for the &quot;glass ceiling.&quot;

Also, I think these prospective questions reveal why the family situation that came before the &quot;nuclear family&quot; of the 50&#039;s, the conglomerate clan of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and parents who all lived together in the beginning of the 20th century, is the ultimate set up for child rearing. When humans began to move away from the tribe/clan set-up that has been the mold for our race for millenia - even in the 50&#039;s - they were making a bold move away from the natural that would lead to the deterioration of society.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>These prospective questions are all excellent reasons as to why it is insanity for two parents, of very young children, to hold full time &#8211; 40+ hour a week &#8211; jobs. </p>
<p>If both of the parents have such a low income that they need to work full time jobs in order to survive, they should at least get a grandmother, grandfather, or other willing family member who can manage the children. This is an arrangement I frequently see in low income, but family oriented, Hispanic and Middle Eastern immigrants. </p>
<p>While feminists complain that the rules of the old days prevented women from supporting their families &#8211; in dire situations &#8211; there is much evidence to prove the contrary. </p>
<p>The reality is that in the 50&#8242;s, 30 % of all American women had jobs &#8211; this 30% being the widowed or low income women who needed further means to support their families. I also know this, because both of my grandmothers were in that category. So much for the &#8220;glass ceiling.&#8221;</p>
<p>Also, I think these prospective questions reveal why the family situation that came before the &#8220;nuclear family&#8221; of the 50&#8242;s, the conglomerate clan of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and parents who all lived together in the beginning of the 20th century, is the ultimate set up for child rearing. When humans began to move away from the tribe/clan set-up that has been the mold for our race for millenia &#8211; even in the 50&#8242;s &#8211; they were making a bold move away from the natural that would lead to the deterioration of society.</p>
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		<title>By: Relationship tip #9 &#171; For the scattered flock</title>
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		<dc:creator>Relationship tip #9 &#171; For the scattered flock</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:50:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] 25, 2009 by singlextianman    This secular fellow has some good ideas about what to ask a prospective [...]</description>
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		<title>By: Savvy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Savvy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Sep 2009 08:38:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Justin---so true, so true.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Justin&#8212;so true, so true.</p>
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		<title>By: Savvy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Savvy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Sep 2009 08:36:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You know, you might want to ask the men the same questions...I mean seriously, some can&#039;t.

Many men look to sex as a way of us ladies showing our interest...seriously, a guy at the gym just told me this.  How can those of us who don&#039;t find a decent guy when there are so many who are ruining it for the decent of both sexes?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You know, you might want to ask the men the same questions&#8230;I mean seriously, some can&#8217;t.</p>
<p>Many men look to sex as a way of us ladies showing our interest&#8230;seriously, a guy at the gym just told me this.  How can those of us who don&#8217;t find a decent guy when there are so many who are ruining it for the decent of both sexes?</p>
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