Welmer

Plenty of guys know the family court system needs a shakeup, and a big part of that involves setting ethical standards for those involved in it. One wonders how many guys have lost custody of their children after being accused of stalking or harassment by this guy, who is currently under investigation by the FBI [...]

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Although the idea that American men are in a state of decline, if not outright crisis, has been gaining some traction amongst moderate observers, nobody has yet proposed any serious measures to remedy the situation. Measures for dealing with American men remain punitive, ranging from affirmative action all the way to proposals to castrate convicted [...]

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I don’t usually write directly about politics, but Obama’s choice of Joe Biden for VP significantly raises the stakes for men. Joe Biden, known to men’s activists as “VAWA Joe” for his promotion of the 1994 Violence Against Women Act, holds a great deal of responsibility for the abuses introduced by that law. Thanks to [...]

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It strikes me that in our contemporary culture there is a basketful of negative stereotypes about men from which people can pick and choose and subsequently hurl like stones at the hapless scapegoat for family and social ills. There’s the “deadbeat dad,” “abusive husband,” “batterer (or wife-beater),” “couch potato,” “unromantic husband,” “stalker,” “predator” etc. A [...]

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To start with, I’d like to go back to the origin of the term “alpha male.” It is a biological designation given to the members of mammalian social communities with the highest reproductive success. It is perhaps most relevant when applied to canines and apes, highly social animals that have hierarchical social rankings that determine [...]

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According to statistics, adultery is on the rise in America. Much is made of the fact that wives are cheating nearly as much as husbands these days. Since the statistics come from polls, and women are less likely to admit to adultery than men for both cultural and practical reasons, it is likely that men [...]

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Since I first discovered my desire for women, I have always taken this attraction for granted and held it to be an inseparable part of my straight, male identity. It has been just over twenty years since I began to lay awake in bed, imagining the female form and feeling a need for its presence. [...]

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The concept of what a father’s role should be in the family is changing rapidly, and although this is deeply unsettling to many men, it may provide us with an opportunity to rediscover what being a father is all about. The provider/homemaker paradigm has been shattered by mechanization and the diminishing value of male labor. [...]

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Now that gender equality in terms of income has been achieved in the younger generation, and educationally women currently surpass men, most of us ordinary men find ourselves staring irrelevance straight in the face. A friend of mine recently observed that women are “taking over” his department at his former company. Except in specialized occupations [...]

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